Christian Marriage Counseling

Imagine that you are in a dead-end in your relationship.

Imagine what it might feel like if your spouse were to ignore you or start an argument with you each day.

Put yourself in this position and think about how your marriage would continue on like this if something wasn’t done to restore the relationship to a healthy one. Now imagine if you can, searching for advice and being told not to complain about your situation.

Then you are told to submit to your spouse and allow them to run the marriage however they please. As strange as it is, this is the method that has been taught to couples over the past fifty years.

Certainly this grin-and-bear-it attitude can dilute a marriage further, forcing both partners apart rather than saving the marriage. The Christian marriage help my wife and I teach tries to break free from these ideas.

Traditional marriage advice that told a woman to be submissive to her husband and to praise him regardless of his actions has harmed so many marriages before.

My wife and I are trying to show people the opposite of that with our Christian marriage help. We want women to have a voice, to confront their husbands when they are unhappy.

What would you do if a coworker of yours was bothering you in some way? Perhaps they don't do as much work as you do, or perhaps they are difficult to be around.

Would you talk to this coworker and try to fix the situation, or would you simply submit to them and hope that it would make them reverse their actions?

Of course you would speak with them and try to fix the problem. Doesn't marriage deserve even more effort than a relationship with a coworker.

Communication is paramount in a marriage and no one should be advised to stop communication and just blindly accept every flaw in their partner?

That wouldn't be like taking a step towards a better marriage, it would be like taking ten steps away from each other.

Through a new kind of Christian marriage help we want to show husbands and wives how to work together and understand one another. Marriage advice books and ministries targeted women as their audience, telling them to always submit to their husbands.

Men weren't taught how to understand and communicate with their wives at all.

Knowledge brings the healing, I strongly believe that. Men must learn to be the husband that their wife needs, and I feel that they can do that.

Now imagine that you're in healthy relationship based on communication between partners. It's important that both spouses take reponsibility for their actions as well as for their marriage.

Harmony can be achieved in a marriage when both partners are taught to communicate with each other properly.